Being Whiny vs. Asking Yourself Healthy Questions
No mom wants to whine. No mom wants to be selfish. Every mom wants to do a good job.
Sometimes skeptics think mothers who worry about their own needs are selfish, or just plain lazy. Why have kids in the first place if you can’t take care of them with good cheer and tons of positive energy?
Well, we agree! We don’t like whining, and neither do any of the hundreds of women we talked too. But is there a difference between being whiny and asking yourself healthy and necessary questions?
Questions like:
- is there something in my life about which I feel really passionate?
- have I laughed recently?
- do I feel connected to the world around me–events and people?
- am I often anxious and stressed out?
- can I enjoy quiet time or do I always need to be busy?
- do I feel fulfilled?
- am I too impatient with my loved ones?
- is there a way I can reconnect with who I was before I started my family?