Slacker Moms vs. Alpha Moms
Do you know there’s a war going on between mom-camps, and it’s not between working and stay-at-home mothers? It’s between Beta, or Slacker Moms, and Alpha moms.
Man, sometimes these Mommy Wars are exhausting!
Parents have such a big job, and there’s so much at stake, it’s natural that we second guess ourselves. Confidence and genuine happiness is a real gift in mothering, because our kids can sense it. That’s why we wanted to write this book, When Mom’s Happy, Everyone’s Happy, full of real life anecdotes from moms all throughout the US, sharing their stories about how they found their own way through the maze of mothering.
The moms who are best off are the ones who feel in touch with their instincts. They feel confident that they’re doing things their way, and don’t look to others for answers. When we lose touch with how WE want to parent, we forget that we have choices to make. It’s easy to start feeling pressure to do things a certain way. I think Alpha moms feel that sense of competition and pressure all the time, but if they can handle it, fine. For me, personally, it’s all about knowing what I think is important and not getting caught up in the details.
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May 19th, 2007 at 1:00 pm
Amen to the idea that it’s all about knowing what you think is important and not getting caught up in the details. For me, the details are others’ judgments of me, my OWN judgments of myself and others, comparing myself, unrealistic expectations, etc. I think one reason moms feel guilty for parenting “wrong” because they look at others moms’ best qualities and strengths and compare them to their own “worst” qualities. I know I do that and really have to watch myself. By the way, LOVE the idea of your book and how it focuses on all different kinds of moms. Bravo! Keep up the good work!