Comments on: Let’s Talk About Sex

By: Lou

Lou — Thu, 03 May 2007 01:51:47 +0000

when i get pressure from my husband about sex it really turns me off. when he leaves me alone, and i feel like it’s more my choice, then i am more interested. i don’t like the feeling that he doesn’t really care about whether i really want it or not, it just seems sort of demeaning to me. i think men need to work more on being sensitive to what we need

By: Sue

Sue — Wed, 02 May 2007 20:14:15 +0000

They say women need to feel connected to want to have sex and men feel the connection from having sex. That is definitely the case for us…and hence that can lead to frustration on both sides. One of the many gender differences that cause marital “unrest” for us…and I’m sure many others!

By: Katie

Katie — Wed, 02 May 2007 19:38:26 +0000

Sometimes the more you partake the easier it is to “get in the mood” because it’s fresh in your mind how great it feels and how much it helps bring you together with your spouse on a sub conscious level.

By: Joan

Joan — Wed, 02 May 2007 14:26:31 +0000

I could go weeks without having sex. I convince myself that I love my husband and that we find other ways to be connected. But reality is, I never feel as close to him as I do after we’ve been intimate. There’s something about sharing that intensity that really brings us together. Still, I rarely — if ever — get into bed thinking, let’s get to it! I really have to force myself to start and the desire only comes belatedly. If I waited for the desire to be there first, we’d be on the verge of divorce by now!

By: babs

babs — Wed, 02 May 2007 13:03:18 +0000

I for one need a mental and emotional connection before the sex flows and I don’t think the man in my life needs the same. It sounds crazy but we get back on the same page by working out together - going for a run, skiing together - all of which helps to feel connected again. That’s the first step in becoming intimate. The exercise also makes you feel good about yourself!